Tuesday, February 8, 2011

college blues

"A"~ 'Wes when do you have time to sit down to go over this stuff? I need your help to do this.'
"Wes"~ 'Help with what? What are you talking about?'
"A"~ 'OH MY GOD MOM THIS IS JUST WHAT WE TALKED ABOUT I DON'T WANT TO DO THIS I JUST WANT TO LEAVE AND MOVE AWAY!!!'


"Mom"~ 'A we talked about this, tell him what you are talking about.'
"A"~ 'HE KNOWS WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT!!YOU TOLD HIM THIS WEEKEND!! THIS IS STUPID! I AM NOT STUPID!!'
"Mom"~ 'Are you done? Did you get it all out? Now you need to try again, no running to your room and hiding. We, all three of us, want this for you, quit being the road block. Knock it off. First you need to go over and say I'm sorry I got upset Wes, then you need to say we have a March first deadline for housing at the college and I need your help.'....




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needless to say, she never apologized for her little temper tantrum. we went online and looked at housing, my little princess thinks she can get a 'suite' room with a private bathroom. those are for scholarship students. then she was looking at apartments, which are for graduate students and those with families. I tried to tell her it was the dorms and she pitched another little fit.


"A"~'MOM I CAN'T LIVE LIKE THAT!! I NEED MY OWN BATHROOM. THIS IS STUPID I CAN'T LIVE WITH ALL THESE PEOPLE, HOW AM I GOING TO GET MY HOMEWORK DONE!!'
"Mom"~ 'A it is called communal living. where do you expect to stay, on the streets?'
"A"~ 'I DON'T KNOW MA, THAT'S WHY I ASKED YOU GUYS FOR HELP I DON'T KNOW WHAT I AM DOING!! I CAN'T EVEN FIND WHERE I NEED TO PAY ON THIS STUPID WEBSITE. THIS IS STUPID!!


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Billy Mays would be proud.


two of my favorite and most used prayers, they have gotten me out of sticky situations...


'God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, The courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference...'


and


'Lord please put your arms around my shoulders, and your hands over my mouth...'


So by the end of the evening we managed to get the 'house rules' printed off, i suggested to my little girl to read over all the by-laws. she is slowly coming to realize that dorm living will be her best bet. she even had the nerve to say this wasn't about what i wanted this was her college experience. that was when i was trying to lighten the mood and tell her dorm living would be an adventure.


i need my breathing exercises now. i may do some jumping jacks and lunges as we are going to be snowed in today. luckily i already dropped 'A' off at school, maybe they will keep her for a bit. my poor Wes is at his wits end, he feels like a purse and punching bag, all she wants him around for is when she needs money. She just can't bring herself to have some humility, I guess that is a lot to ask of a teenager. So I will call the therapist, the recruiter, and then we will try again.


thank god she knows what college she wants to go to!!!


today's thought; 'If you're never scared or embarrassed or hurt, it means you never take any chances.'- Julia Sorrel

13 comments:

Andrea said...

I have a blog award for you at Arise 2 Write. It is the second post down.

I have a prayer request at All Gods Creatures.

Blessings,
andrea

Busy Bee Suz said...

Oh my gosh...you made me laugh out loud this morning. Sorry. She does like to fly off the handle pretty quickly....BUT, she will figure it out soon enough. That just does not work.
{FYI: Lo is in communal housing with FOUR girls and two bathrooms. and that is a perk because they are student athletes}
I am sure she is stressing about so much.... bless her little teenage heart.
Take care Suzie....breathe!

Brian Miller said...

haha...dorm life certainly will be eye opening if it is anything like mine was...i lucked out and got a handicapped room with a bath tub...everyone wanted to be friends with us...lol

Sia Jane said...

Oh you articulated and scripted that perfectly.
Genius!
Brilliant stuff :)

On a more serious note, take care of you, and yes, remember to BREATH!!!

Jess Mistress of Mischief said...

At her age I would have given my eye-teeth to get to live in a dorm (just to get away from the horrible parents) GOOD GOSH, what an ungrateful drama queen I was. I'm sure no matter what I got I would have wanted different or more. I'm grateful now that my parents didn't kill me, did provide for WAY more than I deserved in money and support, and continue to be the best a girl could have.

Hope A, when she's older and has been provided with more opportunities to see the kind of dedication, responsibility and love it takes to provide firm positive relationships and to provide a stable financial foundation for living, that ya'll are the best for her too.

Keep up the good prayers and great reflections of how this stuff works! :)

Kim A. said...

How I remember the "melt down" phone calls that still come occasionally as my oldest is now in the grown-up working world. I am going to re-tween and re-post your second prayer today. Brought me a smile and a reminder. I can't get into trouble if I shut the heck up. Thanks for your post today. Hugs.

♥namaste♥

Mama Zen said...

Perhaps the prayer needs to be "put your arms around my shoulders and your hand over HER mouth!"

Hang in there, girl!

RNSANE said...

I know I shouldn't be laughing but your post had a bit of humor in it. I had three son, no daughters, a situation which I lamented but, when I read stories like yours, I, sometimes, think I didn't fare too badly. I was a single mom, without child support, and my boys were unbelievably aware and not too demanding. They didn't ask for expensive jogging shoes or outrageous things. My oldest son, now 40, went to junior college, then joined the Air Force reserves,primarly to get GI bill money for the rest of his college. He's still in the reserves 17 years later, is an electrical engineer, and qualifies now for the 9-11 GI bill and will go to grad school. My middle son went to UC Davies. I took out a $10,000 loan to help him get started. He hated it there, left after the first year and never asked for another penny. He's worked and continued in junior college, married last May ( he and his wife paid for their entire wedding, bought a house the year prior, has changed his major a couple of times but continues on in college and is paying back that $10,000 loan himself, my youngest son went to junior college for three years, transferred to Cal Poly where he got his BS in kinesiology. I took out a $10,000 loan for him which he is paying back himself. I feel so lucky with these boys who have been an
incredible help to me.

Believe me, they have been a pain sometime....boys will be boys! Their farting contests used to drive me insane and the two youngest,at 6'4", would take down their older brothr ( 11 years older
than the next one ) to pay him
back for winning all the wrestling matches when they were young, wit me yelling at them not to hurt Shawn

Sober Julie said...

love love love this scene, I totally wouldn't want to live it and applaud your patience.

Michelle said...

GReat story.I really going thru this in a few years with my teenage son. good luck

Shadow said...

kids. they sure know how to take it outta you... good luck. you were pretty amazing there, keeping so calm...

Gabriella Moonlight said...

Great parenting nice second quote I use both all the time. All the time.

love is patience...

Keith said...

Dios concedenos la Serenidad, para aceptar las cosas que no podemos a cambiar


Valor para cambiar las cosas que podemos

y

Sabiduria para reconocer la diferencia.

my comprehension of spanish is limited, but I have always found this version of the serenity prayer quite beautiful.

Dios te bendiga.

I enjoyed your post.

Thank you