tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2824082088287492334.post8565549110748626955..comments2023-08-29T08:12:25.699-07:00Comments on My Recovery: an honest postclean and crazyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09156586299182570611noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2824082088287492334.post-84280192127848433702010-06-28T22:49:55.306-07:002010-06-28T22:49:55.306-07:00Your honesty is priceless. A real gift. Thank you....Your honesty is priceless. A real gift. Thank you.Hopehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02045801745534184703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2824082088287492334.post-64811581786547182112010-06-25T18:53:47.340-07:002010-06-25T18:53:47.340-07:00I came over after reading your comment on "mo...I came over after reading your comment on "mother of a drug addict". I was very impressed with your comment and I found it very helpful. I got here and your most recent blog post was even more insightful. I have been reading your blog for a while, off and on, and I have had a ton of respect for you for that whole while. My respect is still growing. <br /><br />I appreciated your distinction between not being responsible for your addiction but being responsible for your recovery. I plan to mention some of your thoughts in a letter to my daughter who is in prison at this time. <br /><br />I wish that we lived closer to each other. I have a feeling I would be honored if I had the chance to get to know you in person. I think my daughter would be blessed to sit in a meeting with you. I pray for you daily, and I just wanted to let you know. Hugs and prayers!Her Big Sadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07872091902506034704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2824082088287492334.post-16151252914283750322010-06-23T19:01:43.496-07:002010-06-23T19:01:43.496-07:00I agree that the only thing I can do is take care ...I agree that the only thing I can do is take care of my recovery. I can't make another recover or change. I have had to accept that. I am grateful for your honest post. BPD is a tough diagnosis from what I've read. I wish you the best of luck.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2824082088287492334.post-53106325557447615602010-06-22T17:50:31.130-07:002010-06-22T17:50:31.130-07:00i'm really sorry. alot of people misunderstand...i'm really sorry. alot of people misunderstand what i mean, or i fail to get my idea across in an easily understood manner.<br /><br />i do believe their is a genetic component to addiction. i smoke cigarettes, i am addicted. <br /><br />i don't know. honestly. i have done much research, and the medical community (research included) is about evenly divided on the disease/choice issue.<br /><br />if my daughter has a disease called heroin addiction, then why don't all her siblings have it?<br /><br />if it's genetic then why is she the only one who is addicted to anything at all. her other two sisters and her brother none smoke, or use drugs. they socially drink occasionally.<br /><br />so i don't really know. what i do know is YOU are working a program faithfully and recovering and my daughter is not.<br /><br />i am not against nar anon or any other 12 step program. i attend ala non meetings weekly. i'm not sure whatever or whomever gave you the idea i was against them?<br /><br />none of us know what led our babies to stick needles full of heroin into their arms or to snort their first oxycontin or to smoke it? we just know they are addicts now and it tears up our hearts and our families.<br /><br />then, we all find a way to cope, or we go nuts.<br /><br />in my case, a little of both.<br /><br />dawnAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03699870975776139552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2824082088287492334.post-74482176382825926032010-06-22T17:48:14.520-07:002010-06-22T17:48:14.520-07:00Honesty and sharing your heart is a good thing. I ...Honesty and sharing your heart is a good thing. I respect you for that..and I am thankful you are able to do that, here.<br />Blessings and prayers,<br />andreaAndreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03082891172963869545noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2824082088287492334.post-83099444040941859172010-06-22T16:23:18.602-07:002010-06-22T16:23:18.602-07:00I would never have guessed that you BPD. I only k...I would never have guessed that you BPD. I only know you from your blog, of course, but you don't present that way.Maude Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03669688074743095866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2824082088287492334.post-41354733064383653802010-06-22T11:35:56.835-07:002010-06-22T11:35:56.835-07:00I am sorry for your unhappy upbringing and am happ...I am sorry for your unhappy upbringing and am happy that you are NOW in control of your life. Your recovery is going well, you are moving forward and you will do better as a parent than what you had.<br />Great job on the weight watchers, you should be proud of all your accomplishments so far!Busy Bee Suzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18115487928147732314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2824082088287492334.post-40734979297410096612010-06-22T07:59:01.600-07:002010-06-22T07:59:01.600-07:00thanks dad, i appreciate the time you took to comm...thanks dad, i appreciate the time you took to comment and everything you said.clean and crazyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09156586299182570611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2824082088287492334.post-24633586652980733192010-06-22T07:42:41.048-07:002010-06-22T07:42:41.048-07:00None of us are perfect, not as parents, not as ind...None of us are perfect, not as parents, not as individuals and not as children. Perfection should never be a goal. I accept continous learning and not allowing mistakes to defeat me as legitimate goals. It sounds as if we share those goals. <br /><br />If you would have talked to me a few years ago, not that long ago, I did not accept addiction as a disease. Addiction was simply a weakness of character and the disease label was simply a permission slip to continue a self destructive lifestyle that was fun. <br /><br />I don't pretend to understand the physiology of the addicted brain but I have seen enough scans to understand something changes. I observe changes and behaviors that make no sense that have no observable motive other than an illness of the brain and its thought processes. Dumb old me cannot help but deliberate on these things and I draw my own conclusions that addiction is a disease. That can be the only logical conclusion. 1 + 1 = 2, it can't be 3 just because I want it to be 3 or because I don't understand 2. It's the same with addiction and mental illness. <br /><br />I don't know how one kid follows a path of using drugs and another doesn't. Not in the same family, same neighborhood or any place. I am beginning to grasp it isn't something you can attribute to any one thing in parenting or even the way a child "is". It is so much more complicated. I think there are things a parent can do to help a child resist the lure of drugs but there are no foolproof steps to take.<br /><br />I am so sorry for all the pain you have had in your life with your parents and upbringing. The important thing to recognize is; what you were is a part of you but it is not you. You are what you are today. You are the person that walks and talks today. Our past may haunt us but it does not define us. <br /><br />You are trying to be the best parent you can possibly be. You are trying to be the best wife you can possibly be. You are trying to be the best person you possibly can be. WHAT MORE COULD ANYONE POSSIBLY BE????!!!!Dad and Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14204246139693620329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2824082088287492334.post-21231107494096487252010-06-22T07:29:23.465-07:002010-06-22T07:29:23.465-07:00I'm appalled and so sorry that you had the chi...I'm appalled and so sorry that you had the childhood you did. No child should have to live like that. I applaud you for taking your recovery into your own hands and making a success of it. xAkelamaluhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11234268568845148285noreply@blogger.com