tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2824082088287492334.post6036755341279113458..comments2023-08-29T08:12:25.699-07:00Comments on My Recovery: why can't i just be normalclean and crazyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09156586299182570611noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2824082088287492334.post-49192834694371844832010-10-06T17:36:45.246-07:002010-10-06T17:36:45.246-07:00What a moving post. I'm at a loss for words.....What a moving post. I'm at a loss for words...I feel like I have to say more, but I just don't have the words.Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11352940156473227821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2824082088287492334.post-11285295302048409342010-10-06T12:34:42.762-07:002010-10-06T12:34:42.762-07:00Wow, this post was so graphic, I had a physical gu...Wow, this post was so graphic, I had a physical gut reaction. Good writing here. I feel for you, and also am so proud of you that you DID get out.sydneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15948472654559338363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2824082088287492334.post-58835024513072025612010-10-06T09:08:48.644-07:002010-10-06T09:08:48.644-07:00My sister lived in Ionia for a while.
I'm fro...My sister lived in Ionia for a while.<br /><br />I'm from Michigan so I know the area well. <br /><br />So sorry that this was your experience, I'm glad people are moving more and more to tell their experiences openly and with the Power of God they're moving to allow women the understanding that they have a choice today, and that more advocates stand at the ready to house and help them as they come away from those experiences, and God willing someday they won't wait 5 years to make the decision and have the power to leave.<br /><br />Glad you're in recovery now and living in a foundationally spiritual relationship with your man now. <br /><br />I was, in my past, in bad relationships where hitting and puppy abuse occured. I have to say, I wasn't the most responsible dog owner in the world, and I also yelled screamed and hit. I also didn't even consider leaving as an option until other circumstances that presented themselves gave me the anger and power to leave.<br /><br />Glad you live today in that wonderful light of the spirit!Jess Mistress of Mischiefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14766848582303523764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2824082088287492334.post-64921372777756363052010-10-06T07:18:47.440-07:002010-10-06T07:18:47.440-07:00holding good thoughts for you...holding good thoughts for you...magiceyehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17848851692951192508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2824082088287492334.post-36220910558073878402010-10-06T07:01:27.873-07:002010-10-06T07:01:27.873-07:00OMG I was hyperventilating just reading what you&#...OMG I was hyperventilating just reading what you've been through so God alone knows how you survived it all. I'm so sorry you had to endure such horrors and pray that life will be kind to you from now on m'dear. xxxxAkelamaluhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11234268568845148285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2824082088287492334.post-36257527000697151052010-10-05T18:15:25.538-07:002010-10-05T18:15:25.538-07:00I visit my past in order to learn, or re-learn, an...I visit my past in order to learn, or re-learn, and grow. I cannot dwell there too long or I slowly forget that it IS the past. My therapist is my biggest cheerleader now and I know she is really an angel working p/t as a therapist :-D I am so glad you got this stuff out where it belongs. Be kind to yourself, your are priceless.<br /><br />♥namaste♥Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16128247878961221421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2824082088287492334.post-29084796951944595862010-10-05T12:18:48.912-07:002010-10-05T12:18:48.912-07:00It was obviously important to you to share this. I...It was obviously important to you to share this. I'm not sure if you will ever know how important it was to others that you shared, as well. <br /><br />I want to be fixed, too. I think it would be nice.Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17805281199840274328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2824082088287492334.post-71143381076714035832010-10-05T10:38:19.095-07:002010-10-05T10:38:19.095-07:00I know that feeling from therapy and wanting to be...I know that feeling from therapy and wanting to be fixed and how much we didn't learn earlier in our lives.<br />I was saying that to my therapist once and she said "but look at the new toys you have!". And, that works. Everyone else takes these things for granted. For us, they are a new gift. And, we were strong enough to make it to this day when we get to play with our new feelings and behaviors. <br /><br />We can't have a better before but we do have a better now and will have an even better tomorrow and our children will have a better chance than we did.<br />JackieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2824082088287492334.post-79983442813826814342010-10-05T10:36:39.291-07:002010-10-05T10:36:39.291-07:00Don't think of it as being fucked up. Think o...Don't think of it as being fucked up. Think of it as unlearning survival skills that no longer serve you well.Maude Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03669688074743095866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2824082088287492334.post-68298486546142655462010-10-05T10:35:13.133-07:002010-10-05T10:35:13.133-07:00I too was sad and shaken by this post. I want you ...I too was sad and shaken by this post. I want you to know that I value who you are and your strength. No person needs to be treated with such violence. I know that it will take time to get over the hurt and anger associated with the abuse you suffered. But just being aware is a good thing. I am glad that you have Wes who loves you and is a gentle man. Gentleness is the way to treat yourself.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2824082088287492334.post-39266111024415555152010-10-05T08:06:28.096-07:002010-10-05T08:06:28.096-07:00Haven't you heard, the old line, "I'm...Haven't you heard, the old line, "I'm fine it all those other people that are f*****d up." That is usually said by a guy holding an automatic weapon with a thousand rounds of ammo standing in a clock tower. ;-)<br /><br />Don't be that guy, but he did have one thing right, WE ARE ALL F*****D UP! In our own way. Although I'll never get to the point that I would hit and bite someone like that, not a man and especially a woman unless it was to save myself, wife or child.<br /><br />I cringed when I read you accounting of your first marriage. I have dealt with battered woman at times in my job. Human Resources is more than paperwork and hiring and firing people. I've had women come to me before for employee assistance, I've confronted women visibly battered and offered company assistance, I actually turned a man over to the police when they showed up at our office looking for him becasue he beat his girlfriend. I had no idea, he was always a straight up guy at work.<br /><br />Sorry but I cannot phathom the circumstances of a man hitting their wife and mother of his children. Even with my experiences it is a shock to my reality when I find myself in the middle of those circumstances. I don't know, is there such a thing as a "bully gene"?<br /><br />All through your post you use one word over and over, "perfect". Ain't none of us perfect. Once my wife put it in perspective for me. When I work in my shop I try to pay attention to the smallest detail but with everything I build there are always mistakes and even though others look at the beauty of the work and function of the piece I see the mistakes, it is not perfect. <br /><br />Darlene watched a TV show once about craftsman ship in the Amish community by the men and women building things and making quilts. She told me in all their work they put at least one small mark or missed stitch in their items. They do this to make sure there is no perfection, perfection is the sole right of God. They do not want to consider their efforts or things as an equal to God. <br /><br />Get off the perfect train and get aboard the good enough train. The ride is smoother and the scenry is much more pleasing. For me it was really, really hard getting off that perfect train and getting a ticket to the good enough train but it is worth the effort.Dad and Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14204246139693620329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2824082088287492334.post-87126753984840042192010-10-05T06:53:10.908-07:002010-10-05T06:53:10.908-07:00OMG, I literally flinched many times during readin...OMG, I literally flinched many times during reading this post. If I were there, I would wrap my arms around you and give you a big hug. I am so glad you got away from that awful man.<br />I don't deal with things very well and I go off on my hubby lots. I know it is because how I saw my own Mom get treated, it was NOT good.kristihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17987700142247888708noreply@blogger.com